How to Survive a Breakup: Setting Realistic Expectations

When you get your heart broken, you can’t expect everything to go back to normal in a week.

It’s going to take time. The best way to go about this is to go through it. Not over it, not under it, or around it.

The only way to truly come back from a heartbreak and prepare for a future in your love life is to go through the motions and not avoid them. You are no different than anyone else.
You have to let yourself feel what you’re feeling and not be in denial. It’s only going to prolong the process if you do that.

Keeping a journal is a good way to track your progress. Also, doing anything that will substantially change your life in your long-term future, like picking up a new hobby, changing scenes, moving to another area, etc.

That will help you stay realistic that this person breaking your heart is not the end of the world.

You have to look past this situation and envision where you want to be tomorrow, next week, next month, and so on.

It’s not going to be easy. It’s going to take strength and willpower, but it’s possible. Allow yourself to go through the motions, and when you’re ready, become self-aware of what went wrong. How can you avoid such issues when you put yourself out there to be with someone again?

If you don’t learn from this, you’re bound to repeat the bullshit and stay in a vicious cycle of the bullshit. #thatisall